INTJ female x ESFP male relationship. Need insight from my fellow INTJ-ers. : intj
to hear what people think about the compatibility of INTJ's and ESFP's. My current boyfriend is an INTJ, and his ex of 6 years is an ESFP. An INTJ friend of mine just became official with an ESFP. Both are confirmed. I think they're a cute couple and they seem to work pretty well. And what to do if you're in a relationship with one? Follow these tips to overcome the natural difficulties. Most INTJ ESFP relationships are characterized by the.
Like any of my other exes, I don't talk to her anymore, and I'm very OK with this I'm sure she is too. I want a girl that I can hang out with, go to the movies, go hiking, kayaking, whatever under the pretense that we aren't just friends and there is a potential relationship that may come out of it I'm a flirt by nature, so I think I can make my point across that I don't want another lady friend.
When sex happens, it happens, when a relationship happens, it happens. If it takes a month, or three months. I know I want to wait now. You'll see no faults in your partner. You'll think you've found "The One" a stupid concept, really, but that's a talk for another time. Things are bound to go downhill eventually though.
Of course, it COULD work out with any two healthy types, I just don't see a relationship between these two types as being ideal.
How extroverted was she?
So with me warning him at the beginning of the relationship I told him about. But nope, he couldn't hold it back, bought it up, I got super upset and dumped him out cold on the spot I know it may be dumb to alot of people, but he attacked me on something that was important to me. I even kindly tried turned the convo.
But this pissed him off even more, he almost tried to "force" me to talk about something I knew would cause issues for me and him.
The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict.
Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated. Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.
Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so.
Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions.
Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.
Perceivers, on the other hand, help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything - something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of. Struggles However, Judgers find Perceivers to be too passive and casual with their indecisiveness - Sometimes this gets on the nerves of Judgers. INTJs tend to be perfectionists. Because INTJs are so private, they are hard to get to know and usually prefer to spend their time alone with their ideas or with equally competent colleagues.
They do not like to explain themselves or their ideas to those they interpret as being less competent or not genuinely interested.
Personality and Romantic Partnerships: ESFP (The Performer) & INTJ (The Scientist)
Hard working and determined, INTJs have enviable focus and will not be deterred from their goals. This admirable determination, however, may result in their being stubborn, inflexible and unable to transition easily from one project to another.
They admire how organized, competent and self-disciplined their partners are and appreciate their planful approach to the future.
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The INTJ partner often helps the ESFP to slow down, be more objective and learn to anticipate future needs and consequences before diving headlong into things. They provide a calm stability.
Challenges ESFPs and INTJs have many opportunities for growth, but because of their significant differences they also may experience frequent frustrations.
They tend to have different interests and goals. ESFPs are very social people and want to spend time with friends and having fun.