Have any of you ISTPs had any experience in a relationship with an ISTJ? I have been in a relationship ISTP for a few months now and so far. their strengths are the ISTP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, . I've done this quiz a couple of time and I got ISTP, ISTJ and ISFP. Interesting in how well the ISTJs get along with ISTPs in relationships (platonic and romantic). Could you please share experiences if you.
Both like language simple, straightforward and literal; will likely 'click' with each other. Because both tend to live in the present, household duties are less likely to be neglected. However the more passive ones may still not perform them.
Struggles Although both enjoy Sensory details, the couple may disagree on specifics in the household: In times of crises, both partners tend to over-worry or think up worst case scenarios, which is unproductive and sometimes cause destructive conflict between the couple.
In such cases, they may lack the future looking vision that will help them through the crisis. Thinking-Thinking Joys Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making. As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won't have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party.
In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons. This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict.
Struggles While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it. Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values.
The ISTJ's constant assertion of "rightness" may send a message to their mates that they do not value their opinions. If the ISTJ has a mate with a strong Feeling preference, they may inadvertantly wreak havoc with their self-esteem, since Feeling individuals are extremely sensitive to conflict and criticism, and are especially vulnerable in their intimate relationships. Since ISTJs make decisions using the Thinking function rather than Feelingthey are not naturally likely to consider their mates feelings and emotions in daily living.
This may be a problem if their mates have the Feeling preference, since Feeling individuals usually expect a lot of positive affirmation, which the ISTJ does not naturally communicate to them. ISTJs are generally very capable and efficient at most things which they endeavor. Consequently, their mates are likely to hold a good amount of respect for them. Daily concerns are likely to be well-provided for by the ISTJ.
If other concerns, such as emotional needs, are pointed out to the ISTJ as important issues for their mates, the ISTJ will rise to the occasion and add the task of addressing these needs to the internal "list" of duties. Since the ISTJ is so willing to work hard at issues, and so tireless at performing tasks which they feel should be done, the ISTJ generally makes a wonderful, caring mate who is willing and able to promote a healthy, lasting relationship which is also a partnership.
How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Such is the greatest goal of an ISTJ parent toward their child. Along the path towards this goal, the ISTJ expects that their children honor their traditional familial roles. As parents, they demand respect and authority from their children. They willingly accept their parental role of provider and guardian. Once the ISTJ becomes a parent, it becomes a "given" that they will perform all of the duties associated with parenthood, and they will do so without grudge or burden. However, they expect that their children give them their due respect in return, and will have little patience with disrespectful behavior.
When it comes to giving punishment or discipline, the ISTJ will be able to do so when necessary without too much internal trauma.
They see it as their duty to teach their children when they've done wrong, and so will administer the punishment in the name of the greater cause of doing their duty towards their children. Not to imply that the ISTJ will enjoy disciplining their children, they simply will put their duties before their personal feelings. He does plenty for both of us. Oh man, we he is engrossed in something He doesn't wanna hear nothing, I mean nothing else besides what he believes is right.
I stopped trying to change his mind long ago.
It can be anything from bread to politics. Everything is the best simply because he likes it. It gets annoying but I'm used to it. We are very much opposites as well. He definitely helps me to relax more and have more fun which I need while I help him make decisions and get things going.
I will admit that I get stressed out over stupid little things all the time and he is very good at calming me down, although I think he thinks it is funny that I get so worked up over the things that I do. I also worry about coming across as the bad guy to other people and he'll usually say something along the lines of 'bull shit' and tell is like it is, as you do which I am secretly very thankful for because I hate having to do things like that.
ISTJ and ISTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
I usually take care of the social interactions while he takes a back seat and I don't mind it at all. I don't see myself as dogmatic as a lot of you have described ISTJs, but maybe I will have to reevaluate myself.
I would hate to be seen as stubborn and stuck in my beliefs.